Why do I start to panic and think people are dead if they don’t call back on time?
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Ever since this person i know died i now have panic attacks and if i cant find where a person is or when they say theyll call and they dont at a certain time i presume them dead or i start to have an anxiety attack as these thoughts race through my mind.
Ever since this person i know died i now have panic attacks and if i cant find where a person is or when they say theyll call and they dont at a certain time i presume them dead or i start to have an anxiety attack as these thoughts race through my mind.
I **** this. Why does this happen to me?
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Was the person who died was supposed to call you at a certain time, and failed to do so because of death? Because it sounds like you’re a bit traumatized, and it’s giving you a phobia. A phobia is an excessive fear which, when triggered, causes anxiety attacks or the feeling like you or someone close to you is going to die. It happens. I have a phobia of seeing dead things (when there’s roadkill on the road I totally go beserk…kinda crazy, I know). It sounds like you’re at the point where it’s hampering your everyday life though, so you might want to see a psychologist, there are many who can cure phobias. Good luck!
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You are associating a horrible experience with an everyday occurrence, which is why it happens so often. I would give your self little goals regarding phone calls and emails and other forms of contact. For example, if someone says they are going to call by 3pm give them until 4pm, then try calling them yourself. If you can’t get a hold of them by 5pm, then start worrying (I don’t mean full-fledged panic attacks). Some people are just horrible about returning phone calls, I know I am. This generally has nothing to do with death or avoiding people, some people just plain ol’ forget or get too busy. With me, I don’t like talking on the phone, even for just a few minutes. I would recommend talking to your friends too, maybe have them help you get through this anxiety. Arrange it with them so that if you are waiting for a phone call from one of them that they wait a while before they call you back so that you can get used to waiting.
Just remember that it is not your fault that your friend passed away and that just because someone isn’t on the phone with you doesn’t mean that they are in mortal danger.
If you cannot get through this on your own or with your friends, I would suggest speaking with a professional, because this anxiety could lead to other complexes (OCD and paranoia).
Good luck!
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don’t know, i guess you’re just reliving that horror.
everytime someone doesn’t call me back, i just get mad and assume they’re blowing me off
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Your actually lucky… I knew this would garner attention…(also don’t kill me just read on)
At least you have a starting point for investigating the cause of your anxiety attacks. Most people have nothing to work with. Think about the person that died. Was it a person close to you?
Was it someone who reminds you of your kids? (if you have any. Many people are afraid of having something happen to their kids… its called being a parent
For some reason you are connecting that death to people in your life. You might be building some kind of very unhealthy coping mechanism for this person’s death or you are creating some kind of protection for your loved ones by being so up tight about their well being. You might be afraid another loved one will die and that you will have to feel the pain again.