Beat Anxiety Panic and Fear » People http://anxietypanicfear.com Beating Anxiety Panic and Fear Tue, 16 Aug 2011 14:06:06 +0000 en hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2 Fear – How to Confront and Kill it So That You Can Succeed and Reach Your Potential http://anxietypanicfear.com/fear-how-to-confront-and-kill-it-so-that-you-can-succeed-and-reach-your-potential/ http://anxietypanicfear.com/fear-how-to-confront-and-kill-it-so-that-you-can-succeed-and-reach-your-potential/#comments Wed, 27 Apr 2011 12:40:58 +0000 Angusf http://anxietypanicfear.com/fear-how-to-confront-and-kill-it-so-that-you-can-succeed-and-reach-your-potential/
Linda Hancock asked:




One of the most damaging and limiting things in life is fear. Every week clients tell me about how they are restricted or stopped by things that they think present more risk than they are willing to confront.

Fear forms the bars of the cages that hold us back. You see, when we are afraid of things, we do not take chances.

Sometimes people have social phobias and are afraid to ask someone who attracts them to go on a date. Usually the person who is afraid is so focussed on his or her own inadequacies that the characteristics and personal assets have to offer are minimized or completely negated.

I have seen people give up many opportunities in relationships, career, or personal growth because of fear. Often people do not want to risk what they have, even if it does not bring pleasure, unless they think that there is a guarantee that the new direction will be better than what they have. Then, when they don’t take a chance, they “beat themselves up” for years, thinking that perhaps they made the wrong choice.

Sometimes people have negative experiences which cause them to take a position on a topic. Children who have been bitten by insects in their youth can carry extreme fears into adulthood. A person who has been robbed can be paranoid that they will have a repeat experience. Those who have had a romantic breakup can swear off dating.

There are occasions when people are afraid of things that have not happened to them. Those who view tornadoes or tsunamis on television might experience vicarious traumatisation and be afraid that this weather pattern will appear in their location even if there is absolutely no chance of this.

One of the best ways to deal with fear is to confront it head on. Write down the fear you have and then identify the worst thing that could happen. Next, decide what options you would have to deal with this. You will likely be surprised at how unrealistic your fear has been and how capable you might be in dealing with it. The Boy Scouts motto is “Be Prepared” and this is good advice for everyone. The more detailed your plans are, the better possibilities you have of dealing with your fears.

I had a friend who was very afraid of driving in Calgary. She was asked to go to a meeting at the University but was planning to say that she wasn’t able to go. I reminded her of what a capable and intelligent person she was and how she had conquered much bigger problems in her life in the past. The friend said “But Calgary is so big and there are so many streets”. I suggested that she would only be driving on one of them at a time.

We began making a plan. First she studied a map and laid out the best route to take. The meeting was to be held on a Monday morning and so we planned for her to travel on Sunday as the area would be less busy and she wouldn’t have the time pressures. She would drive to Calgary, go to the University, find the available parking and then locate the room where the meeting was to be held. Then she would stay in a nearby hotel for the night and feel confident the next morning about how to get to where she needed to be.

How thrilled I was on Sunday evening to receive a telephone call from my friend who was ecstatic about arriving in the University parking lot without any trouble! Fears will grow if you let them but they will also shrink if you confront them.

Think about the things that prevent you from being who you want to be or from going where you want to go. With some planning and a few action steps you will soon be able to experience the freedom that you have desired!

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]]> http://anxietypanicfear.com/fear-how-to-confront-and-kill-it-so-that-you-can-succeed-and-reach-your-potential/feed/ 0 What is the best way to overcome a fear of speaking in front of group? http://anxietypanicfear.com/what-is-the-best-way-to-overcome-a-fear-of-speaking-in-front-of-group/ http://anxietypanicfear.com/what-is-the-best-way-to-overcome-a-fear-of-speaking-in-front-of-group/#comments Fri, 15 Apr 2011 16:52:29 +0000 Angusf http://anxietypanicfear.com/what-is-the-best-way-to-overcome-a-fear-of-speaking-in-front-of-group/
Dan “The Answer Man” asked:


Im a High School student and I need your help!
I have a great fear of speaking to people in a group, I was looking for some suggestions on how to break this fear.

If you could help me I would appreciate very much
Thank You!

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]]> http://anxietypanicfear.com/what-is-the-best-way-to-overcome-a-fear-of-speaking-in-front-of-group/feed/ 6 How bad would the panic be if swine flu becomes a pandemic? http://anxietypanicfear.com/how-bad-would-the-panic-be-if-swine-flu-becomes-a-pandemic/ http://anxietypanicfear.com/how-bad-would-the-panic-be-if-swine-flu-becomes-a-pandemic/#comments Sat, 26 Mar 2011 04:54:10 +0000 Angusf http://anxietypanicfear.com/how-bad-would-the-panic-be-if-swine-flu-becomes-a-pandemic/
Rockout346 asked:


People are already panicking just because a couple hundred people are infected and a few have died, sadly. How bad do you think the panic would be if we went from a level 5 to a level 6- which means a full on pandemic. How would people react?

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]]> http://anxietypanicfear.com/how-bad-would-the-panic-be-if-swine-flu-becomes-a-pandemic/feed/ 7 What is the relationship between judgment and fear? http://anxietypanicfear.com/what-is-the-relationship-between-judgment-and-fear/ http://anxietypanicfear.com/what-is-the-relationship-between-judgment-and-fear/#comments Sat, 05 Feb 2011 08:20:08 +0000 Angusf http://anxietypanicfear.com/what-is-the-relationship-between-judgment-and-fear/
Love aka tree kisser asked:


Do you think the more judgmental a person is the more fear based reality they are living from? Asked in another way, are the least judgmental people those who fear little or nothing at all?

When we battle/face/observe and reflect upon our inner demons does everyone around us start looking incredibly beautiful? Our judgments fall away/melt away?

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]]> http://anxietypanicfear.com/what-is-the-relationship-between-judgment-and-fear/feed/ 12 What if the people you live with are the cause of your anxiety and depression? http://anxietypanicfear.com/what-if-the-people-you-live-with-are-the-cause-of-your-anxiety-and-depression/ http://anxietypanicfear.com/what-if-the-people-you-live-with-are-the-cause-of-your-anxiety-and-depression/#comments Tue, 16 Mar 2010 00:09:25 +0000 Angusf http://anxietypanicfear.com/what-if-the-people-you-live-with-are-the-cause-of-your-anxiety-and-depression/
Shanizzel asked:


What if your family is the cause of your anxiety and depression? You have no where else to go, and they also depend on you. Is going to a doctor a loss cause? Because spilling your guts would ruin everything. If your living with these people you can’t very well go talk about them, and expect to to live with them after that.

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frs asked:


Ever since this person i know died i now have panic attacks and if i cant find where a person is or when they say theyll call and they dont at a certain time i presume them dead or i start to have an anxiety attack as these thoughts race through my mind.

I **** this. Why does this happen to me?

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]]> http://anxietypanicfear.com/why-do-i-start-to-panic-and-think-people-are-dead-if-they-dont-call-back-on-time/feed/ 4 How do I overcome the fear of confronting people? http://anxietypanicfear.com/how-do-i-overcome-the-fear-of-confronting-people/ http://anxietypanicfear.com/how-do-i-overcome-the-fear-of-confronting-people/#comments Thu, 18 Feb 2010 00:06:38 +0000 Angusf http://anxietypanicfear.com/how-do-i-overcome-the-fear-of-confronting-people/
Rosemarie C asked:


This has been affecting many of my decisions. I fear asking for help, recommendations, asking someone out, etc. I guess I fear rejection. I just feel that in the past, I have had people refuse to help me and this has caused the fear. I just want to know what I can do to break through it. Thanks.

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