How can I overcome anxiety of using public bathroom urinals?

matthewmoviebuff asked:


I always have to use the stall whenever I go to the bathroom and sometimes people like my dad and my friends think its weird. And whenever I do try to use urinals I get stage fright and I’m physically unable to go to the bathroom . Could this be Paruresis or do you think I just like my privacy? How do I overcome this anxiety? Thanks in advance.
thanks kelvin for the answer, but it doesnt really help me. I want to be comfortable using urinals no matter what insetad of avoiding the problem like I have already been doing.

Comments 12

  1. kelvin S wrote:

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    Try using a urinal when their is no one else in the bathroom.

    Posted 09 Mar 2010 at 1:17 pm
  2. Steve wrote:

    http://www.anxietypanicfear.com

    I don’t use stalls either, ’cause I kinda grew a little and now I actually need to shake it. I also don’t like to aim for the toilet water – I aim for the non-water-filled part of the toilet so it doesn’t make a sound.

    Please make sure you always keep your ***** clean and there is no *** left on it before you zip back up. You don’t wanna get a urinary infection.

    Posted 10 Mar 2010 at 7:52 am
  3. Stephen K wrote:

    http://www.anxietypanicfear.com

    I think it is bashful Bladder, a rather common condition. Use the stalls, OK?

    Posted 11 Mar 2010 at 9:09 am
  4. STEVE wrote:

    http://www.anxietypanicfear.com

    I believe only you know the answer.

    Posted 13 Mar 2010 at 10:44 pm
  5. Kevin wrote:

    http://www.telfordcomputers.com

    Trust me most guys won’t look down at other peoples ***** and and a tip be at least two urinals over from another guy

    Posted 15 Mar 2010 at 6:22 pm
  6. Nicolas wrote:

    http://www.philipjubb.com

    Well that’s a hard one bro, I feel the same way and have the same problem. What I do is just go to the very last urinal, and just focus on what I have to do, otherwise I can’t go, especially with other people near me, so that’s what I’ve been doing. A way to actually go whenever you are caught between to guys is just listen to the toilette flush, or think of water LOL, that seems to help me in those wierd ocassions.

    I know this isn’t the answer you are looking for, but it helps me sometimes. Let me know how you get over this anxiety, as I will need the answer as well.

    Later bro.

    Posted 16 Mar 2010 at 11:10 pm
  7. im freaking obsessed wrote:

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    dude im the same way. especially when theres a line. then its like there is no way in hell i can *** to save my life. i just use the stalls and blow my nose before or after so its not as weird. Or what sometimes works for me is before i go i flush the urinal so it makes noise and that helps me most of the time. i would definetly try that.

    Posted 18 Mar 2010 at 6:10 pm
  8. Easy Going wrote:

    http://www.oldagepensioners.com

    I didnt like ****** in urinals when i was in 6th or 7th grade.
    In 8th grade, I just really had to *** one day
    and all the toilets were being used so
    i took a **** in a urinal with a bunch of people near me.
    i didnt look at them or even around
    i just looked ahead of me and minded my own business.
    you shouldnt get “stage fright” at a urinal
    i dont think anyone’s really thinking at a urinal
    they just go do there thang and leave.

    i think your dad has already seen you *** when you were a baby.

    Posted 21 Mar 2010 at 8:57 pm
  9. Bjorn Lake wrote:

    http://www.oldagepensioners.com

    im kind of similar but im getting better at it if you can say that….
    so anyway i was freakin that some guy was gonna look at me or i was gonna look at some guy or something like that
    so what i did was as others have said go when theres no one else there but i used to freak if someone came in half way through and id seriously stop and have to move to a cubicle.
    im not sure if this will work for you but hey it kind of worked for me so wait until you cant hold it anymore and then go to the toilet and youll need to go so bad that you wont care
    also try to get a urinal in a corner instead of the middle and not next to any guy

    Posted 23 Mar 2010 at 6:10 pm
  10. mooey wrote:

    http://www.10b.com

    I don’t use the urinals because *** splashes on your pants and hands. Its kinda gross so who cares what other people say. Do what ever you think is right.

    Posted 25 Mar 2010 at 2:04 am
  11. Your wrote:

    http://www.anxietypanicfear.com

    I agree with mooney. I **** urinals!

    Posted 26 Mar 2010 at 6:22 am
  12. San Diego Guy wrote:

    http://www.anxietypanicfear.com

    This is a common problem for many guys, and it was an issue for me for many years. I’m mostly over it now. Once I get the flow started, I can *** anywhere. The big deal was relaxing enough to release the stream. A few things that helped: If I’m listening to my iPOD, the flow starts easily. If I look straight ahead and not worry about what everyone else in the mens room is doing, the flow starts in a reasonable amount of time. Be patient with yourself. Many times I made myself stand at the urinal until I could get the flow going instead of giving up and heading for the stall – even if it took 20 – 30 seconds.

    Posted 29 Mar 2010 at 10:07 am

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